Daryl & Lydia

[Opening Music]

BILL: Will everyone please stand

Daryl standing at Back Row - Lydia will walk up to Daryl (photos) and then two of you proceed to the front.

BILL: Welcome. Please be seated.

[to Lydia and Daryl]

Lydia... Daryl, today we are gathered here to celebrate the love you have discovered in each other and to support the commitment you have made to each other.

A Union is more than two people standing here and repeating vows. It is a daily practice of being present, of negotiating for your needs to be met and compromising, valuing the needs of this other human’s feelings, wants, and needs truly as your own and perhaps even greater than yours.

Part of marriage is finding happiness. Search for the good in the other person and in life, Find ways to have fun, and look for the beautiful in this life to share with each other.

Part of marriage is being Fluid. So, within your marriage cultivate flexibility, patience, understanding, and adaptability all while maintaining a sense of humor and joyful heart.

Part of marriage is companionship. Strive to comfort one another through the difficulties and develop the capacity to forgive and heal your differences each and every day.

Remember that your love can always prevail in times of turmoil. It will drive you to not only learn and to grow as individuals, but become stronger partners together.

Part of a good relationship is vulnerability. Choosing each day to allow the other person to see your true self. That you can feel belonging and acceptance for who you both really are. You have a right to be you and to belong in this relationship.

Part of a good relationship is accountability. Owning your own unhealthy mechanisms and shadows and seeking to learn and develop new tools and perspectives to more fully love and support your partner.

Today,you remind each of us that there is a vast and unknown future stretching out before us. Our Lives..... Your lives ..... blending together and expanding the ties of your family and friends. You are embarking upon a great adventure, one that is better when we have someone to share it, endure it, and enjoy it with.

[to guests]

Daryl and Lydia present themselves cheerfully surrounded by the people they love. They want to thank you for your presence here today. They ask for your encouragement and lifelong support.

Reading

“ All I Know About Love”, by Neil Gaiman.

This is everything I have to tell you about love: nothing. This is everything I've learned about marriage: nothing. Only that the world out there is complicated, and there are beasts in the night, and delight and pain, and the only thing that makes it okay, sometimes,

is to reach out a hand in the darkness and find another hand to squeeze,and not to be alone.

It's not the kisses, or never just the kisses: it's what they mean. Somebody's got your back. Somebody knows your worst self and somehow doesn't want to rescue you or send for the army to rescue them.

It's not two broken halves becoming one. It's the light from a distant lighthouse bringing you both safely home because home is wherever you are both together. So this is everything I have to tell you about love and marriage:

nothing, like a book without pages or a forest without trees. Because there are things you cannot know before you experience them. Because no study can prepare you for the joys or the trials. Because nobody else's love, nobody else's marriage, is like yours, and it's a road you can only learn by walking it, a dance you cannot be taught, a song that did not exist before you began, together, to sing. And because in the darkness you will reach out a hand, not knowing for certain if someone else is even there. And your hands will meet,

And this is to be loved

BILL: So are you ready to exchange rings? Lydia & Daryl’s will you embrace hands for the exchange of vows?

BILL: {Daryl}, do you take {Lydia} to have and to hold from this day forward; Not Someone to complete you but to accept her completely. To strive to be someone that makes her proud. Do you vow to listen to her and to learn from her? Do you vow to laugh with her and cry with her? Do you promise to value your differences just as much as your common ground? On good days or bad days, rain or shine, to love her always?

Daryl: I do.

[Lydia puts ring on Daryl as exchange of rings]

BILL:{Lydia}, do you take {Daryl} to have and to hold from this day forward; Not Someone to complete you but to accept him completely. To strive to be someone that makes him proud. Do you vow to listen to him and to learn from him? Do you vow to laugh with him and cry with him? Do you promise to value your differences just as much as your common ground? On good days or bad days, rain or shine, to love him always?

Lydia: I do.

[Daryl puts ring on Lydia]

Outro and Pronouncement

BILL: {Lydia & Daryl}, you have come here today and in the presence of your family and friends, have declared your love and commitment to each other. I am honored and proud to present to each of you Daryl and Lydia Saxberg!

You may kiss your person

MUSIC PLAYS : COUPLE WALKS OUT